Looking Resilient

Life consists of a series of events. Like pearls on a string each is part of who we are. There are times when we actively slide a pearl onto the string – we make choices. There are other moments where choices are made for us for better or worse. Whether you are actively navigating through life or passively allowing life to sweep you along, you will encounter difficulties. Things happen. The key to living well is being resilient. Resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; a toughness. That is not to deny that bad things have happened. It doesn’t mean suppressing emotions. What it does mean is that when troubles come you don’t let those bad things change who you want to be, how you love, when you pray. You acknowledge the problems. You grieve, cry, perhaps even let loose with come choice 4-letter words but you step forward and move away from the difficulty toward possibilities. Let that pearl sit there because it is now a part of your history but don’t let it be the last pearl on the necklace of your life.

Resilience is hard to master. Some folks never get the hang of it. It is more than placing one foot ahead of the other. It is an attitude mixed with some courage. It is believing that you are worthy of love. It is saying that your life is your own and your capacity to love is infinite. If you need to be reminded, print this and read it before you go to bed and before you get up in the morning. It is said that if we hear something often enough we will come to believe it. This works for negative as well as positive words. Listen for the positive!

26 thoughts on “Looking Resilient

  1. Sounds like you’re giving yourself a pep talk before heading to work this morning. Have you thought about changing jobs? On the other hand, you are learning something everyday about finding equanimity under duress.

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      1. Every year for the last seven of my career, we had a new manager or VP. Some were excellent, others not. Finally a manager who micromanaged my work tipped the scales — one evening I had a 3-hour drive home in traffic (should have been one hour), and the day had not gone particularly well. That drive gave me lots of thinking time, and by the time I got home I had decided to retire — if life outside the workplace is good, that might be a good solution. I hate to hear it end in such strife, though!

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  2. It seems like the “passive” difficulties are easier to accept and deal with, since they are not “technically” our fault. Much harder to accept the consequences of one’s own bad decisions. I like the image of pearls on a necklace, every difficulty we encounter can be a pearl of wisdom if we learn its lesson. No problem is the end of the world, and some problems open a door or force us down a different path for which we are later grateful. One of my favorite mantras is “It will be OK in the end. If it’s not OK, it’s not the end.” A very inspirational post, Muri. Hugs to you if it was prompted by a rough patch in your life. 🙂

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  3. I have been through so many rough patches, I started thinking of myself as sandpaper. I am hoping to make it to seventy, with a work environment similar to what I have now, but if not, I would roll the dice and live on what I would have available.

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  4. This is a wonderful post. Such wise words. I hope those rough patches get smoothed over quickly! If anyone has a clear head in difficult times it’s ;you! Take good care! peace & smiles

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  5. You are wise indeed my little steel Magnolia! I found this post excellent. I think you should write professionally! You know I’m always saying that. I think you should start a book and maybe try to get it published. You are one of the loveliest pearls on my life’s necklace, my dear daughter!

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  6. You are wise indeed my little steel Magnolia! I found this post excellent. I think you should write professionally! You know I’m always saying that. I think you should start a book and maybe try to get it published. By the way…you are one of the loveliest pearls on my life’s necklace, my dear daughter!

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