Looking at a Wonderful Life

Thanksgiving has just passed in a blur of gluttony and conspicuous consumerism. Many of my “friends” on Facebook had been posting things they were thankful for daily on the lead up to the holiday. I am not that dedicated to post daily (though at one time I did). Instead I’m giving you a haiku and a little backstory.

Mark the exact time
A pushpin on life’s road map
Life begins and ends

This last week (November 13th) was my father’s birthday. He would have been 86. He made it to 76 before death caught up to him. And I’m thankful – not for his passing but for his living. He was strict. He was stern. He had a sense of humor and he could laugh! I remember his laugh even though I can’t quite hear his voice after 10 years. (I’m fairly certain that if I heard it I’d immediately recognize it.) He lived well and he instilled in me (and my sisters) certain life lessons that have stood me in good stead. He stressed being financially responsible (setting money aside in savings). He insisted on honesty. He loved books and passed that on to me. He enjoyed a good slapstick movie or the physical humor of Saturday morning TV cartoons. He reveled in Wile E. Coyote’s constant antics that always backfired. To this day I can’t see a Roadrunner cartoon or the word Acme without thinking of my father.

So that brings us to the second portion of this post. I am very thankful for all my family and friends still kicking around on this side of the turf. I have been so busy running in circles that I’ve neglected them. I realize that I need to slow down and interact with them on a more regular basis. This will look like lunch with a former coworker and friend (we haven’t seen each other since her daughter’s graduation party in June). I need to Facetime with my mother hopefully that will have already happened by the time this post is read by anyone. And I need to do it on a more regular basis. I need to call my sisters. I should talk to my fashion consultant (we see each other often but cancer treatment makes it all the more important). I must get together with my “other sister” to go geocaching before the weather gets nasty (We went to the “Messiah Sing Along” last Sunday but it is hard to visit when I am struggling to sing an alto part). Anyway all these people are part of what makes my life wonderful.

23 thoughts on “Looking at a Wonderful Life

  1. a beautiful list of thoughts, gratitude flows from your heart, we have so little time to do all we need to, start with one today, this is my take away from your lovely post.


      1. that is a good focus, too much goes into getting more from the material world we forget people are more important, so your words had lots of meaning towards generous living


  2. Yes. Thanksgiving is just a day off before Christmas to most. Christmas goes up before Halloween. People decorate in October. I don’t decorate or listen to any Christmas music until the Friday after Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays because they are quiet family gatherings. Not the craziness of what do I receive.


    1. Thanksgiving is important as it sets us up to have the right attitude for Christmas. I agree that it is altogether wrong to start decorating for Christmas before Halloween or Thanksgiving!


  3. A beautiful tribute to your father, Muri. Mine passed away this summer, it was our first Thanksgiving without him. 😦 The push to spend more time with family and friends grows stronger as we age, and especially during the holidays. Trees and decorations and cards and cookies and gifts are important, but none of that tops lunch with an old friend, time spent laughing and catching up. At our last poetry meeting, Annette (a teacher) said she should have been grading essays, but came anyway. She views an evening of poetry and fellowship not as frivolous, but essential to her well-being.


    1. I think Annette is absolutely right – poetry and time with friends is as essential as air! I’m sorry you lost your father. I hope you can celebrate his life and not dwell on his absence during the holidays.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Thanks, Muri. I remind myself that Dad is in a better place, and present always in our hearts. Annette’s comment reminded me of a saying about meditation–everyone should meditate for 30 minutes a day. If you are too busy to spare 30 minutes, you need to do it for an hour. LOL 🙂


  4. Loved your memories about your father..brought tears to my eyes as I sit here in waiting room at Lab Corp to for blood test work….needed before getting new prescription for same old thyroid med….since it had been over a year since last blood test for it by primary care doctor who is closing her office! I do have new doc to see in Jan. Too long sorry!


  5. I smiled so big when I read “my other sister.” I laugh every time I look at the photo I took of you at Messiah. I hope you blog about your little incident. 😀


    1. You took a photo of me? A funny photo?? Was I aware of said photo or was it a stealth picture? I can’t remember. Maybe because I’m trying to block out the horror of the incident! I may have to retire that wrap to prevent a repeat!


  6. You are always, ALWAYS, so sincere with your words and thoughts. We all think of the parents we have lost, and the love continues, but don’t have the finesse of putting thoughts to words as you do, and have done here.
    Such a lovely post Val! Thank you.
    Truly, so much to be thankful for.


    1. Oh Zakiah! You say the nicest things! I try to celebrate my father’s life and not his absence. I hope you are feeling better and the side effects of your treatments are minimal.


  7. You were blessed with a wonderful father! And yes, we do need to let the people in our lives know we are thankful for them, and one of the main ways we do that is by making time for them. Thanks for the reminder!


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s