Tiny feet
Dance to the beat
Jumping high
Gossamer wings
Wave as she sings
Ephemeral butterfly
There is something about aging that changes once you reach a certain point. As a child, time crawled. Summers lasted forever. I couldn’t wait to reach what I considered to be grown-up, that is the age of 16 years. In my mind once I had achieved the age of 16, life would really begin. Of course 16 came and went. By the time I’d reached high school the target has moved and I was certain that I would, when I gained the age of 21, really be an adult. The years continued to mount. The 20s and 30s were a clawing climb while I met milestone after milestone – marriage, children, home ownership, career. Things began to speed up when I reached 40. I started to notice the cyclical rhythm of my life. There was a deep current that pulled at my life and emotions. The seasons came and went faster. My body was aging relentlessly. The realization that my time on this plane of existence was finite slowly dawned as my 50s slipped away. My 60s find the world trying to push me to go even faster. I have stepped out of the stream. So there it is. While time is spinning and swirling like water in rapids, I’m aware of the limited opportunities. I’m grasping at the things I want – sort of fishing in this time stream – in hopes of slowing down and enjoying each moment. We are just butterflies. Some are brightly colored and others a dull monotone yet we are all “short-timers”. The key is to take time to dance and sing today, NOW, since tomorrow will come before you know it.
WONDERFUL, Val. I feel exactly the same. Also, do what you can WHILE you can, before it goes. Did you say that too? Anyway, yes, lufe DOES go much much quicker as you get okder. For the record, I am 71. Yuk! Lol
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Yes Lorraine the saying “Carpe Diem” (seize the day) has more meaning as we age. BTW I’m not too far behind you…
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I know. I wish we could start going backwards now, don’t you! It is
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When time shows us the shorter span ahead compared to when we began we start to think nostalgically on the past. Though there is no abuse in my background I can see how it gets difficult when we do a retrospective. Hope you can enjoy the present and let the future take care of itself (it will be today before we know it)!
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You both are just kids! Age is just a number!
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Hehe! Yep just a number and looking to join the triple digit club!
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I’m also feeling the relentless passage of time.
It used to be that I could see the time pass by through photos of my own children- as they went from babies for adult in the blink of my eye. But now I’m seeing the passage of time through photos of other people’s children. Kids I did church activities with when they were small are now unrecognizable as high school children (and some of the early ones as full grown adults making lives for themselves). Oy.
Doesn’t help that these winter daylight hours last about 2 minutes.
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Carrie I know! On of my son’s friends bought a house one over from us. We were introduced and he has a very uncommon name – mentioned that my son had a friend with that same name… yeah. He’s married with 3 kids. That really gave me pause. I see my sons and though they are adults in every sense it doesn’t always register. And I think you are mistaken about the amount of daylight hours. It is at least 2 hours…
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You are correct. The sun has been out the entire time between reading your post and making this comment back again.
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Hehe! I wrote that and then the sun went behind a cloud and it started to snow… I jinxed myself!
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So well said both in prose and the poem, however there comes that time when we start looking back and realize things past. Here is your story from the other end~!
https://mcouvillion.wordpress.com/2020/01/13/remembering/
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Well penned! We do remember the whole spectrum as adults. As a child there is only the looking ahead and as we age there seems more behind than in front. I like this poem as it speaks of love, family and a beautiful life.
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My mom once commented that the days were long but the weeks, months, years flew by in a blur. She was housebound by peripheral nephropathy and creeping dementia along with all of the other infirmities of age. Covid has brought home what she experienced, prematurely. Having no perceptible schedule, I have to consult a calendar to determine the date and I have to think a moment to figure out, if I need to go to work today (I work Monday and Thursday). 2020 seemed to crawl by when I woke up in the morning with nothing pressing to do, but in retrospect, the year is a barely remembered blur. Thank goodness for blogs that recap the year when revisited!
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Exactly! Some days just drag on forever and then you look up and the month is almost over! If I didn’t have my Google Calendar I’d be completely lost. I keep a daily “to do” list in addition so that I remember when it is time to clean the toilets and do the laundry… Without that list I’d run out of socks and think “Wait a minute, wasn’t yesterday laundry day?” Sparky mentioned as we were headed back home after grocery shopping that we needed to rethink the menu for dinner since he has choir practice. I had to break it to him that today was Monday not Wednesday! We are so busy we don’t know if we are coming or going
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It’s as if once we reach an age to really know what to do with our time then it is cut off. I’m so pleased I opted for an early retirement as there is so much to do and things to see before the old bod gives away. This is the most content I have ever been in my life.
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Brizzy I did the same thing. I retired just before my 62nd birthday and couldn’t be happier. My time is my own and if this dratted pandemic hadn’t put a kink in the plans, I’d be traveling to Alaska and Hawaii and then Europe. Of course Australia is also on the list but with the pandemic all plans are on hold. I just hope I don’t have to renew my passport before we actually get to go on the world tour – having never left the USA once before it expires…
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So true! I find myself thinking about the world after I leave it more and more often, and the legacy I want to leave behind. I want people to say I had fun and I lived right more than anything,
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One of the best things I ever heard at a funeral was that she lived a kind life and no one could remember her losing her temper. I’m not worried about leaving a legacy – I will have my sons as my life’s work. I suppose God’s is the only opinion that will matter. The world will go on without me and I’m fine with that…
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My legacy will be what it will. I worry about what will happen without me as the center of the universe for so many 😉
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It is hard to know how those we leave behind will fare – I take comfort in knowing that I have mechanisms in place that will at least assure their financial security for a time…
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Love this writing…..
We’ve thrown into the Carpe Diem phase. Which I am loving, actually.
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I have been reading an interesting book which points out if people love you all unconditionally and you aim to please everyone, you might not be a leader.
So, I thought about this and realized I am more of a leader than I realized! I hope your sons will make you prouder and also your grandchildren will speeden up the legacy.
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Hehe! I’m not in a hurry to be a grandmother. I want them to marry before they start procreating. (I’m old fashioned that way)
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Me too. Old fashioned, that is.
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Hehe! Glad I’m not alone!
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It’s kind of sadly ironic that when we are really good at life, we don’t have that much left. ❤
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Yep. That is how it goes for lots of things. It takes a long time to get good at figure skating and by the time you reach the pinnacle you are too old to manage that triple lutz… Anyway I’m going to enjoy my time and not dwell on the paucity of days. My mother is going to me 89 in March and so if I’m lucky I may have another 30 years!
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that’s how to think about it.
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And your mother is still very young at heart.
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She is! But now has Afib. The heart is not a young as it once was but if her “fighting spirit” has any say that heart had better keep ticking!
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I am pretty happy where I am in life now. I have learned a lot over the years and I use that knowledge to help going foward.
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And that is how it should be done…
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Yes.
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The time does slip away..too quickly. But to somebody you are still their little girl..in her tutu dancing..on her bike afraid to stop pedaling for fear of falling. And forever I’ll cherish the marvelous words and thoughts you share as my friend ❤
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Fishing on the time stream ?or boating on that stream, or again flying above ? 🙂
Dear Val I wish to you and Sparky a healthy and happy year 2021
Love ❤
ichel
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Thanks Michel! I am seizing the day and enjoying every moment! A happy and prosperous New Year to you and Janine!
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Joe that is the sweetest comment I’ve gotten! My mother still refers to me as one of the kids. I know I’ll always be her baby… And i’m flattered that you enjoy this blog!
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Good thoughts all. Since my mother passed when she was 25, I have been aware of my own mortality for years. Now that I am older though, it seems much more real. I do want my life to count and I don’t want to throw it away chasing things that will not last. You certainly gave us something to think about! Thank you!
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I’m gratified that this was a thought provoking post for you. Losing a parent so young must have been traumatic. There are small miracles that are worth looking for and as always the eyes turn to God. I would like to think that God wants me to have a joyful heart that revels in the wonder of creation!
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I think He wants all of us to have that kind of heart! Blessings to you!
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Thanks Valerie! Blessing on you as well!
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Wow Val, you captured perfectly what every human being is probably feeling as they grow older…and to make it so poetic is even more beautiful.😍😍
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Thanks for the very kind words! Aging is definitely a universal experience shared by all people and even all of creation… To be aware of death is a sharp reminder to live this life well!
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Absolutely LOVE this. Yes..do it while we can. ❤
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As I read this, 2020 itself is slipping away, and people on the left-hand side of the International Date Line are already finding themselves in 2021. Chances are, their lives have not changed much, as yet, and there has, in some respects been one microscopic change or another. Happy 2021, Val and Sparky!
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Thanks Gary! A Very Happy New Year to You! Some changes will be big and others imperceptible… still change is inevitable. I’ve come to accept that change will occur and to fight against it is a fruitless activity. I just keep reminding myself that change isn’t always bad.
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Boy! This post hit me hard. I’m going to be 50 this year and I feel like I’ve missed so much already. There’s so much I want to do before I take my last breath and I’m trying to get there. I rush and rush but I think I’ll slow down this year and take time to smell the roses. Thank you for this post, Valerie!
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I’m very pleased that this post meant something to you!! You are so welcome! Slowing down to savor the moment is something I wish I’d had done sooner!
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I hear you there!
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I think you’ve captured that timeline pretty accurately, Val! Yes, we must “live” every moment of it! 🙂
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Thanks Susi! I would have never thought about it 30 years ago. Age does put some things into perspective!
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You’re very welcome, Val! It does indeed! 🙂
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