Looking for the Meaning of Love

What is this thing that twists the mind
Handsome are considered ugly
And the ugly become handsome
The strong become weak and the weak strong
It makes the smart ones stupid and
Stupid ones smart
Loquacious tongues turn silent and
Of course the silent ones become loquacious
Very cowardly souls find bravery and
Even the brave turn into cowards
This thing steals sight from the eye
Or makes the blind see
Youth withers from it’s lack
Older hearts become young again
Under the influence of love

We are in the run up to St. Valentine’s Day and the love sick are still sick and the lovelorn continue to pine. There are the jaded and those who have been jilted still sneering at those who celebrate their love. Yes, even the people who have forsworn love or steadfastly deny that love exists are sneaking a delicious chocolate heart. We idealize the “perfect” mate and often turn away from others who would give us true love to chase after the unobtainable. Love certainly makes people do strange things. And the lack of love makes us even stranger! We are a species that loves to love. Most people love the concept but not the messy reality. The first time your love burps or worse, farts, can break the spell for some folks. What about the love that snores to wake the dead? Or drools on the pillow? What about your “soul mate” who chews loudly, smacks their lips, or licks the plate?? If those were the only vices would you toss them out on their ear? We all know about the battle of toilet seat up or down, the toothpaste squeezed from the middle versus the end, toilet paper under or over, and leaving lights on and cabinet doors open… And yet we keep looking for love. What is love to you?

49 thoughts on “Looking for the Meaning of Love

  1. I think real (romantic) love thrives where each person feels respected and inspired by their partner’s encouragement. The rest is hormones and good humor that likes the same things at about the same time.

    I’m too old and tired for a relationship at this point. Couples at my age and stage are managing each others health care, and they bask in the memories they’ve made together. I don’t have anyone I have shared good memories with anymore that is my peer. So, I enjoy just being independently owned and operated, chuckle. I honestly DO enjoy being able to lay a book down and find it never moved. Life is simply and joyously good as I enjoy my chocolate heart. I even ordered some flowers to be delivered to myself today. That never happened in the 27 years of marriage, so I’m almost hopping from toe to toe waiting for them to arrive!

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    1. Respect and friendship are the basis for any relationship – especially romantic… I’m glad you are going to get flowers for Valentine’s Day! I do hope they smell good and look pretty (besides lifting your spirits)!!

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  2. Love is infatuation glorified. And after fifty four years, it sort of fizzles and you wonder, is this what love is? was? That’s my take!
    But otherwise, love is a smile, a touch, a look, and the softness of a voice that you remember even decades later!

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    1. Hehe! I write about us all the time. Sparky doesn’t get riled up by much and is fairly comatose. That makes for a really mellow life. And we are both kind so there isn’t much friction. Not much to tell since we are mostly drama free…

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    1. Absolutely Michel! Love and the lack of love changes societies, families, and individuals. We always pray for an increase in love and a decrease in hate so that our world can have a conversion of the heart!

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        1. Yes. This is the year of St. Joseph so we are focusing on marriage, the family and following the example of St. Joseph in obedience… And what is marriage, family and obedience without love??

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  3. For me the idea of romantic love is an illusion. Life didn’t give me one that worked, so, I’m jaded there. Other love? It’s the tie of obligation we don’t resent and never tire of, the person who long after they are dead, remains the the room. It’s the big white dog who, during a happy walk, leans against me to say, ‘I love this, Martha, and you’ just one example of innumerable experiences of dog love I’ve experienced through the years, hoping my human approximation said as much to them. It’s the soaring heart that sees nature’s beauty and knows that, for at least those moments, all is well. It’s God saying in the dark night when you wonder how you will survive a crisis, “It’s all right, little one. I love you.” There you have it. ❀

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    1. I do believe you are ahead of the pack when it comes to recognizing the little messages of love that God whispers to us. Perhaps that big white dog was placed in your path specifically so that you could share a love that bonds you in the past, present, and future!

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  4. Love requires commitment and loyalty from each party to keep it alive. It’s not based on a lie and requires honesty to keep it healthy.

    I would describe myself as more bitter than jaded.

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    1. I agree that honesty, commitment, and loyalty are absolutely essential. Being played the fool would certainly cast a pall over my opinion of love. Still there are lots of other kinds of love – and you have all those in abundance! Just in case you didn’t know, I love you! And so does Sparky! (because we forget to say it).

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  5. There is love and there is being in love. I think they are different and can be exclusive. Some of it is just having respect for each other; people’s individual feelings, needs, abilities, etc. And sometimes it’s just starting the coffee maker when you leave in the morning so your wife has fresh coffee.

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    1. I think there is lots of confusion in the world centered on love – being in, falling in and falling out, love languages, love in action… So much to confuse and we often muddle it up. Glad you have found love and loving!

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  6. True love is hard work- but it’s also worth it. My husband and I have been married almost 5 years. He snores like a chainsaw and sometimes I have to sleep in the other room to get away from the nose. But that’s only a minor thing and something I can live with. It’s not a deal breaker.

    A deal breaker would be playing mind games, abuse, or cheating. The snoring is only an inconvenience.

    All in all, Mike works hard, he takes care of me and I him, he’s faithful, hes open to me with his feelings, and he’s for real. I couldn’t ask for a better partner!

    This is such a great piece and you make so many good points here! ❀

    Inconveniences can be overlooked and forgiven. Deal breakers not so much.

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              1. You got that right! I’d been married before. With my first husband, I married after five months and oh my goodness! I found some things that were intolerable- mind games and mental issues galore!

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  7. Love, to me, was initially something I felt that I didn’t deserve. Once we got over that hurdle, getting past each other’s imperfections was fairly easy. We ended up meeting in the middle, so to speak-she getting rid of certain habits and I, likewise. Love, then, was a way of working on ourselves, in our own spaces.

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    1. Compromise is a big part of living in harmony and peace! The idea that we don’t deserve love is one that is still around today. I had a friend who wanted to join the church but felt that they weren’t “worthy” I had to explain that the church was the people and individually none of us could measure up. Still the community was a gift, baptism is a gift, grace is a gift, God’s love is a gift… We don’t have to earn it in any way shape or form!!!

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