Looking Mothered

Yesterday was Mother’s Day. Sparky and I are currently among the few in our age group who haven’t lost our mothers. That makes Mother’s Day hard for many of our friends. While many were being inundated with cards and flowers, I was not. I specifically requested no flowers or candy. Its not a big deal if I get a card or if I don’t. What is a big deal is the feeling of being appreciated. To that end it was a day of appreciation with my sons in the morning. I was able to go geocaching with my BFF, saintvi and Sparky too in the afternoon. *edit* Sparky planned to grill out but served us a yummy meal from the local Chinese take-out instead. We wanted to end the day with ice cream with the whole clan but he was not feeling up to it after a full day. We will celebrate with my MIL for Mother’s Day but also her birthday when we take her out later this week!

In celebration of my mother I wrote this little acrostic sonnet – yeah, I am a little bit of an overachiever… I blame it on my mother! hehe!

Many times in darkness I cried for you
Overcome by sickness, terror and fright
That your one loving gentle touch would do
Heal my hurt and my heart and set things right
Every risk or barrier I broke through
Reflected on the strength you gifted me
Learned to stand up tall and straight as I grew
Opened my mind to all that I could be
Versed in manners, science, cooking, and art
Every trick of frugality you taught
Then good judgement you planted in my heart
Respect, assist, treat others as you ought
Until the end of time I will confess
Each moment with you Mother I’ve been blessed

My mother is going to have a fairly serious procedure performed. One that she had almost 10 years ago. It is a necessity to repair again. At the age of 89 there are risks that she didn’t face before. Although I am confident in the skills of the surgeon and the hospital team, and I know my mother is pretty darned tough, I’d still appreciate any prayers and positive thoughts sent her way.

40 thoughts on “Looking Mothered

  1. All of us kids gave Mom her favorite kind of flowers the one that goes in the ground and she can enjoy all year long. A beautiful poem. Hope your mom’s procedure goes well. Have a wonderful week.

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    1. Thanks Carrie! I’m glad you liked the poem – I had to do it since I didn’t send her anything in the mail… I’m calling her and I’ll pass on your best wishes.

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  2. Lovely poem. I’ll be praying for your Mom. I have one Aunt left from all of the family I grew up with, other than her, all that’s left is the cousins in my generation. Makes days like yesterday hard. I agree with not getting candy and flowers – such a waste.

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    1. Thanks Patti! I decided a longtime ago that cut flowers were a waste of $, especially when we were struggling financially! The time is coming when I won’t be able to celebrate Mother’s day without a little sadness… but hopefully not in the near future! All prayers are appreciated!!

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  3. Prayers for your mother. Friends made my day more bearable yesterday. Of course for some reason this morning I’m fighting back tears. ?? Stomach mess returned today but I did line up a plumber for her house for Wednesday. A busy week ahead.

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    1. P.S. I ignore Mother’s Day except for the woman — friend and mentor — whose son, my friend, was killed in a car crash with his brother. Both her kids BAM dead at once at the hands of a drunk and drugged driver. It’s a horrible day for her. Mother’s Day has all kinds of booby-traps…

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      1. I agree. This day is fraught with much hand wringing. There are so many who have had difficult relationships with mothers who were at best distant and at worse abusive. On the other end are the people who have either lost loving mothers or mothers bereft of their children. It is an emotional mine field. I love my mother and she loves me and we enjoy celebrating Mother’s Day but it makes me uneasy that there will be someone who takes offense. Valentine’s Day has likewise become problematic making me feel guilty for having a loving marriage…

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        1. There’s no reason to feel guilty. Just count your blessings which is a good idea for everyone anyway. I have a friend who had the worst kind of father; I had the best. I’ve always loved dogs and I’ve had 27 of them. Wow! I loved teaching and I got to do it! Life is just full of losses and wins and the best good luck we get is the change to love someone or something. ❤

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          1. You have lived well! And you have loved and are loved… I know you are fine with my happiness but there are plenty of others out there in the blogosphere who are not so kindly disposed. I won’t wear that guilt but it does make me pause before hitting publish.

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            1. People can be very strange. They can envy something and feel cheated; they can look at someone else’s life as a reproach to theirs. But in my opinion, each of our lives is unique to us. Last year I was envious of my friend who went on “my” dream journey to Petra (I’ll never have the $$$$), then I thought “Wait, she’s got a blind alcoholic husband, and an adult child with a developmental disability. Count your blessings, Martha.” Human nature is a continuous challenge. ❤

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              1. I’ve come to the conclusion a long time ago that my life is “charmed”. No matter what befalls me there are so many who have it much worse. I do count my blessings and still I don’t want to rub salt in any wounds. I know that I can’t control what others think or feel, and I haven’t tried (not since junior high anyway). I’m all for being sensitive to the hurts of others but it is becoming more and more difficult not “trigger” people, especially strangers. Seems if I have a friend who has had a traumatic experience with a dog, I know not to send her a birthday card with a picture of a growling dog… but I don’t see how posting a photo of my dog on social media is triggering for her… yet it seems now that even that is a no-no. I just feel sorry for Dr. Seuss… I agree human nature is a constant challenge (my own and that of others).

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                1. We don’t make enough allowances for the growth of others. Dr. Seuss was a truly good person who lived in a time we can’t understand and shouldn’t judge. I guess the whole thing depends on whether a person is happy with their life or not. Some people just can’t be. My mom couldn’t. I have a few friends who can’t. I like my life and wouldn’t trade it. Maybe that’s the key. ❤ I admire your sensitivity to others.

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                  1. I agree. Many people revel in their misery. To each his own. As long as they don’t want company I’m okay… Some days I’m more sensitive than others. I tend to lose patience (it takes quite a lot) when I’m taken to task for just being me. I do draw the line there….

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  4. I wish Joyce all the best with the surgery and the post op period. She will be in my thoughts as she was ten years ago. Blessings, hugs and love.

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    1. Thanks Zakiah! I talked to her this evening. The angiography showed that the stent was leaking but hadn’t slipped. She is scheduled for the repair on Friday. She is supposed to take it easy and stay off amusement park rides and not take any trips on horseback… Her doctor is a funny guy!

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    1. My mother came through the surgery and is going to have to go in for another look at the “fix” to see if it is working in another month. If so all is right and if not another procedure will need to happen… We are all crossing our fingers and saying prayers.

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