Looking Brave

Someone told me I was brave. I’m not sure what their criteria for bravery was but I certainly didn’t think I fit into that category. Being called brave gave me pause. I pondered this designation laid at my feet or perhaps it was heaped on my head. When trying to come up with some instances where I might have been brave or at least braver than those around me, I came up blank. I just couldn’t figure out how I was brave. Sparky agreed I was brave but couldn’t think of any specifics. So with some serious navel gazing I came up with a list:

1. Had 2 children without anesthesia.
2. Had a dental filling done without Novocain.
3. Stood my ground when accused of wrongdoing at work.
4. Stood up for a coworker who was wrongfully terminated.
5. Captured a squirrel in the toilet and released it to the wild.
6. I watch when being stuck with needles.
7. I cook new things and try new recipes.
8. Rode in a boat despite being terrified of water.
9. Walked across swamps, deserts, bug infested prairie, tiptoed across creeks with a stiff upper lip.
10. Had stitches done without a local anesthesia.
11. Rode in a sky gondola/sky tram and actually breathed in and out.
12. Befriended the new kid.
13. Was the new kid and made friends.
14. Accepted a new religion.
15. Held my head high amid ridicule.
16. Held up others in a time of grief even though I was grieving too.
17. Confronted a bully.
18. Retired early.
19. Sent my sons on Scouting Adventures to do dangerous things.
20. Wrangled dangerous dogs and cats, horses, cows, opossums, ferrets, hamsters, rats, rabbits, and snakes.

I suppose some would call me brave. I’m more inclined to say I am calculating – I’ve weighed the danger against the benefit and chosen the safer alternative. Are you brave??

73 thoughts on “Looking Brave

    1. It chased a nut down the vent pipe (we are guessing) and when it encountered water couldn’t go back up so took the plunge and came up in the toilet! (it was in the upstairs bath and thankfully the seat was down). I’m a Veterinary Nurse (RVT/RLATG) so I was adept at capture (aided by a pair of leather mitts). I happened to have a rat cage (from a previous pet) that I was able to transfer the soggy squirrel into to transport to the trees outside. He was exhausted by his ordeal and didn’t give me much trouble, though he did pause half way up the tree trunk and give me a look of gratitude….

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    1. Yes many are! Just having the gumption to follow our moral compass is an everyday habit. But I guess when you see injustice it takes a smidgen of bravery to follow the right course instead of standing aside like a sheep….

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    1. Haha! No Mich it is just doing my job as a Veterinary Nurse. I had to learn how to do all that and believe you me when I had to snare my first hog I was sweating bullets! The first time I had to pick up a little poodle and when I opened the cage it screamed – I had to close the cage door and sit on the floor to keep from fainting. But you learn and yes, it is still unnerving but I’ve got it figured out!

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      1. Whew…!!! Still i salute you Val… really..πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•..i hope i can figure my way too to handle them, instead of screaming everytime i encounte them🀭🀭🀭

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        1. Maybe or maybe not… You have never seen me in action. Saintvi knows – those spiders in the woods really make me squeak and do the icky dance (complete with walking stick waving, high stepping and a lot of leaping into the air)… I really do have a rather quiet bravery and a very loud cowardice!!

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  1. As I have encountered many moments of adversity, I have been told that I am “strong”. I disagree about being strong, but I think they were trying to say that I had great courage. I don’t disagree, and so I try to be mindful of others who didn’t get the same measure of courage that I did. God gifts us all differently.

    I have to agree after reading YOUR list that you must be a person of great courage! (where you can be scared/respectful of consequences, but press on anyway).

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    1. Thanks Dodi! As a woman and a mother it seems I found reserves of courage when one of the boys was injured, scared, etc. Animals don’t generally make me afraid though I’ve never faced a charging moose, hungry bear, or disturbed a rattlesnake… I’m guessing that I might not have the same reserves of courage in those instances!

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    1. I think we compare ourselves to others too much. That person who thinks you are strong is imagining themselves in your place and doesn’t think they could carry on… Having a good cry every now and then is cleansing!

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  2. Well after reading your list, the first thing that came to my mind was there is a thin line between brave and dumb~!! Don’t take it too hard, actually I may be braver or dumber than you and I am here giving you a good subject for a poem without constraints~!

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  3. Great list! I can only say for me to go through the funerals of both children and didn’t cry then, but that wasn’t brave it was being strong in the moment. Tears later.

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    1. Yes Bonnie. It is being strong in the moment that is the hardest part. When my father died it was very hard and I was the strong one while others were falling to pieces. I crumbled later when I was alone – to spare the others as it would have only added to their grief. I don’t know if I could be so strong if it was my children. Hugs to you!

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      1. I hear you, we show bravery in public but cry into our pillow at night.. So many times I was told to grin and get along with life~! Easy to say, difficult to do, and not always good advice. Each of us must face our life in our own way, some put up a good front and others go pieces, each in our own way, in our own time, and with the help of those who really care. In my mind bravery is as big as getting into a rocket ship and flying to the moon, or minor as facing a large crowd to give a speech, or even writing a reply to note when you know that not everyone will agree with you.

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    1. Gosh thanks Kate! I suppose that I feel like my friends on WP are really that – friends. There are a few things I don’t talk about but for the most part I’m very open. I know you are brave! Amazingly brave in my book!

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  4. I KNEW that darn swamp would be on your list!! πŸ˜€ I’ll never live that down! I will add to your list that you’ve walked across logs over ravines and mud pits. You’ve gone on a few crazy road trips. You drove far away with me when I was newly grieving. You ate my chili when you weren’t feeling well. You met my family. You organized my kitchen. I could go on and on and on! You are very brave!

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    1. Hehe! Yeah, I’ll always have the swamp on the list… but it was a case of ignorance not necessarily being brave. As for the rest of the list – nothing scary there! (well maybe a little but the chili was mostly foolish but it did taste really good!)

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  5. It seems you do what my dad always advised: you count the cost. The adjective, “brave,” has been applied to me, too. I never thought so. It doesn’t take courage to do what you have to do (move out here on my own knowing no one, for example). That said, you’re a person I would want in my corner. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thanks Martha! I think your dad was smart…I am not brave enough to head out overseas to a country where I don’t speak the language and live and work there – so you are VERY BRAVE! I think we could have lots of fun together!!

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        1. Hehe! I bet there would be plenty of opportunity to test our mettle! We could get into so much trouble! Plus there are ~28 geocaches between Alamosa and Monte Vista… lots of places to wander!

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    1. Living is hard but can have its moments of sweet, sour, soft, and cozy. You can’t tell what will be next. Because I’m very curious I want to stick around to see the whole show! Glad you are brave!

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  6. Wow, woman; that is quite the list. Thank you for sharing all the things. The one that really speaks to your courage to me, is getting into a boat although terrified of water. That’s huge, imho, as the kids say.
    I’m sure you know the root of the word ‘courage’, and this list shows that. Wonderful.

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    1. Thanks Kim! I will push myself if the payoff is big enough. In the case with the boat, I wanted to geocache on an island near Travers City MI and the only way to get there was by boat (or to swim). Since it was part of the reason I was there in the first place I gritted my teeth (literally) and did the boat. I mostly kept my eyes closed… I’m just lucky the water was fairly calm!

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    1. Thanks Anitaelise! I just don’t like needles (yes, that much!) I need to see when the needle is coming at me and since I can’t see inside my own mouth, well I’d rather do without! So it is just a matter of choosing the lesser evil!!

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  7. I have faced danger, several times, without flinching. With animals, i have found that talking to them, in a low key, but soothing voice, has led them to leave me alone. This has worked with dogs, snakes, cattle, javelinas and a mountain lion who was trying to be stealthy, but rustled the brush, and caught my attention.

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    1. Most animals especially wild ones, want nothing to do with humans. Domesticated animals like dogs are much easier to calm since they can tell the difference between a threatening voice and a friendly one! Glad you were not only brave but calm in the face of danger!

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