Looking Like a Thousand Bucks

My mother was an only child. When my maternal grandmother died, she left my mother an inheritance that was substantial. Between my father’s savvy investing and saving, my mother’s frugality, and the inheritance, my mother didn’t have to worry financially. She was generous and always sent money on birthdays and at Christmas (and sometimes just for the heck of it). Her estate is now finally (almost) settled. She named me and my sisters as beneficiaries on all her savings and investments. If I could, I’d trade every penny to have her back.

An inheritance received
Bound with tears and grief
Hands open
Let fall the loss of time

Money
Cannot replace
All that is missing
A mother’s value or
Love or touch or voice or smile

Fold crisp bills
Clinking coins heavy in my hands
What value placed on
Life
Now I cry ugly
Looking like a thousand bucks

This poem is not free verse. It is a French form called Descort. It is a form that is intentional in the variability of the lines and stanzas. There is no end rhyme, no refrains. It avoids meter, line lengths and syllable counts that are the same within stanzas and between stanzas. This form is actually harder than you’d think…

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60 thoughts on “Looking Like a Thousand Bucks

    1. Thanks David. It has not been an easy week as I deal with the money aspects (which I dislike anyway). The form was one I’d been thinking about but hadn’t tried. This seemed the time and topic to give it a whirl.

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    1. Thanks Caitlynngrace. It has been hard this week but I have faith and friends and family. Everything will work itself out and in the meantime I’ll write and do some art and focus on the happier aspects… Money can make some things easier but death isn’t one of them.

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    1. Thanks Kate. I’m glad the poem worked (it is something that goes against my order and coloring in the lines approach to life). It was a little freeing to avoid the rhymes but I had to really work to prevent a cadence from appearing! I’m not at the point of enjoying but it will make this last year before I can draw my pension easier by far (once the tax ramifications are sorted).

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        1. I was financially secure before. But this makes this year in the gap even more so. But I’m so frugal that I haven’t purchased a new toaster because even though the old one is barely functional it still works (though it is on the darkest setting and you have to put the bread in twice to even get a little bit of brown on it…). With my big inheritance I might just breakdown and buy a new one. Maybe.

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    1. Thanks K. There is not enough money in the world to make the hurt and loss better. Time is all I’ve got in that department and every day is a little better (though this week has been a little rough)….

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  1. I’m guessing that your parents’ frugality rubbed off on you and even a substantial amount of money, won’t make much of a change in your life. Would that some retail therapy worked for savers like us. It might make these acute losses more bearable.

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    1. Yes, I come from a long line of scrimpers and savers. I learned early to save money and also to use it wisely. Sales, clearance and second hand were always the way to go. I did make one concession to luxury – I vowed to never serve margarine only butter! The cost is only a few pennies more but the taste is priceless! (And it reminds me of my grandmother who after WWII swore to never use “oleo” if there was any chance of real butter!)

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  2. It’s hard to manage the legalities of a life well-lived, when they seem dispassionate and cold. I am so thankful you enjoyed such a wonderful and nurturing Mom. I’m also thankful that you and your siblings are able to avoid falling into what other families do when fighting over what’s left behind. I hope that the grace of this process is the evidence of her influence in all of your lives and histories – beyond the loss. Huggerz and prayers.

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    1. Thanks Dodi! We have always been a loving family (sort of an anomaly in this day and age) and there has never been a big disagreement that we can’t overcome with patience and kindness. She always wanted us girls to be close as she was an only child and longed for sisters… I think she was always proud of us and happy that we had such a warm relationship with each other – and now we are closer than ever.

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    1. Yes. That and more! I am hopeful that this spring I’ll be able to go to PA and help my sister with a rummage sale to clear out some of those very items – too valuable to donate but probably worth a couple bucks or more to the right person!

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      1. Since I have no one to deal with the eventual residue of my life (and theirs) I’m somewhat enjoying the purging process. I also came to realize that I will keep some things for no reason other than they remind me of a time when all of these people that I love were alive and doing wonderful things. Stuff like my mom’s crystal and “good” china? I could not have cared less about that and it’s long gone. Once I started to work on it and faced the reality of it, it has been pretty easy. I have a painting that belonged to my grandparents. It was done by a semi-famous Montana artist. I don’t like, but my mom did so my grandma (dad’s mom) gave it to her. I was going to sell it but my Aunt Martha said, “Don’t. It might be your best friend some day.” I keep it because of THOSE words. It hangs in my living room. There are pieces of our people attached to some of these fardles and no way to know to which they will cling. But, for the most part, it’s a pain in the ass. ❤

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        1. That is the way of things. What I would have never considered “valuable” is now precious and some of the expensive (and worth some coin) items are just dross. I own some capes that were my grandmother’s. I never wear them but I can’t seem to part with them. They still after all these years still smell of her perfume! I think your Aunt Martha was brilliant and very wise.

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  3. I know what you mean. Mums were always special, we only ever got one.
    My parents were always struggling, so when I received a cheque from Sis from Mum’s estate, I was stunned and pleasantly surprised as I expected nothing. Mum bless her, counted the pennies until the end. She would have been 100 this year.

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    1. Your mother was 10 years my mother’s senior… she would have been 90 this March. You are so right about having only one (despite those fortunate enough to have 2 via adoption). Still it is a bond that is unique and special. That generation was much more frugal and saving that the younger ones. The current 20-somethings seem to work to get enough to back pack across the country and once they are destitute then find employment until they have the funds to finance another adventure and the cycle repeats. I suppose there is something to be said for living a carefree life – unless they discover that they just might need to have a retirement fund!

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        1. I worry about those who live paycheck to paycheck – I wonder what will happen when they become too old to work… We are among the fortunate. As my Mother often said, “There but for the grace of God go I”

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          1. I’ve had too many years of more month left over after the pay day, but we got through it.
            Rising costs are going to eat into my pension when I get it in May, but at least I shall have it!

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            1. The early years were a little tight but I’m a whiz at stretching a dollar and a chicken! I know you’ll make it work – you have the frugality gene and a head for finance!

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  4. It is only when you have experienced losing everything that you appreciate monies. Talents, determination and family line continue but money, jobs, houses, and even friends can disappear with no monies. Sorry for your loss but those with great gifts remain with us forever.

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    1. Thank-you Mich! I’m tickled you liked this poem. For some people money is everything. For others it is connections of the heart. And fortunately, the majority fall in the middle. Having an inheritance is lovely but if I could choose, I’d trade the money for my mother.

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