Looking at Handkerchiefs

This weeks Poet of the Week for the W3 poetry prompt is Michelle Ayon Navajas. Her prompt on David’s blog The Skeptic’s Kaddish is to take out your handkerchief. During the Renaissance period, a handkerchief was considered a powerful symbol of women. Giving this item to a woman meant true love, honesty, commitment, and righteousness. If by chance you don’t have a handkerchief, explore your creative side and imagine you are holding one right now. Write an ode to your handkerchief and make it sound like a love ode.

I call myself modern I’m not prone to weeping
Yet I hold hankies close to my heart for their safe keeping
The first is thin as tissue, lilac and pressed
Trifold clipped when to the nines my mom’s mother dressed
Still indented from the brooch that held it to her breast
The next has dainty needlework in each lacy corner
Dad’s mom tuck’d it in her sleeve like the one who borne her
Another is less fancy made of coarser cloth
It bears a tiny hole sign of damage from a moth
Great grandma’s – present when she pledged her troth
All these ladies hankies are precious in my mind
A history of my grandmas separate and yet combined
But the most valuable is not a pretty square
It is my father’s handkerchief a big cotton affair
When I remember him that handkerchief is there
Prone to nosebleeds he always carried two
Mother tried to keep them white but no matter what she’d do
They’d end up yellow with brown blotchy stains
Soaked and bleached even now every stain remains
When opened wide all hurts it could contain
It wiped noses, scraped knees and blood that was seeping
And now holding it with love, I’m once more weeping

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70 thoughts on “Looking at Handkerchiefs

  1. I still have my mother’s hanky collection and my mother-in-law’s, as well as my own(from when I was a girl). I wonder if anyone will care about them after I’m gone?

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    1. Gracia I’m betting your daughters and granddaughters will treasure them. I’m guessing they’ll select the prettiest and frame them or do what my mother did – and sew them onto the fronts of throw pillows. It really “fancied up” her bed and the chairs in the living room!

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  2. You know Val, when I worked, I had the most beautifully embroidered handkerchiefs from all over the world. I had them with me for decades and used them. I have only a few left now. I see them occasionally in one of the drawers, and hold them to my face to enjoy the lingering fragrance and marvel at the embroidery.
    What a neat post! Thank you.

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    1. I’m thrilled I could take you on a stroll down memory lane! My grandma Tena had lots of hankies – many of them with violets or lilacs printed or embroidered on them. My other grandmother had much fancier ones – with lace and ribbons…

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  3. I loved this poem more than any others you’ve written before. I also have memories of hand crocheted trimmed hankies that my stepmother’s mother (known as Bubba) made for her and her sister. The love that was hooked into those hankies soaks my mind in quiet reverie…

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    1. Dodi I’m so pleased that this poem has caught your heart! The one I have of my mother’s mother has hand crocheted lace as well. It is cotton and she always had it starched and pressed (it wasn’t for runny noses) and would have it pinned on her Sunday dress behind a fancy brooch (the one I remember best was a big gold circle of vines with an opal at one edge)… So many memories in such a tiny square of fabric!

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    1. Absolutely. My father resisted the facial tissue. He claimed that it was too wimpy for his needs! When he died we all took a couple of his handkerchiefs. My mother kept most of them – slept with one under her pillow for many years…

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        1. Absolutely. My mother was born in that era too. Which is why she kept the plastic bags from cereal boxes… they were heavy duty and she couldn’t just toss them! And jars always did double duty. Funny how her frugality became mine!

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  4. I love handkerchiefs always have and carried one when I got married, still have it. Every time a gift for Christmas was needed off to Woolworth for a box of hankies. Try that now days.

    Love the poem.

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    1. Bonnie I’m delighted that you like this poem! I remember having to get a birthday present and after picking out a toy, my mother insisted I also include a package of hankies – they were monogrammed with her first initial – I thought they looked very elegant! My father passed in 2008 and it was nearly impossible to find handkerchiefs at Christmas then! I can’t imagine trying to find them now (although they probably exist online…).

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    1. I think so but only as a hobby… You can still buy the thread but I’ve never seen any of the shuttles at the fabric store. One of the hankies with the tatted edges must come from an estate sale.

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  5. This is just pure beauty Val. You took us back in time when we too got our own first hanky given by our moms. I love how you narrated the story up until today.

    Sadly, though in this day and age we seldom see young people use hanky. They’d rather use the ready to throw tissue paper which actually adds up to our current environmental problems.

    Thank you so much Val.

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    1. Mich I’m so pleased that you really liked this one. I took a little trip into my memories – it was a great prompt!! It is so very true that the younger generations view the hanky as obsolete and opt for a disposable…

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  6. Very nice poem, Muri. Considering that I use handkerchiefs only to dry my glassed when I clean them, I have a lot of handkerchief memories, including my mom tying one around my neck after an application of Vick’s VapoRub so my pajamas wouldn’t get too greasy and a grade school classmate who was never without one (she had asthma, I think, and coughed a lot into her handkerchief). I wrote an essay in a college creative writing course about how the Murder on the Orient Express would have turned out differently if it were the days of tissues. Then my mom had a box of old handkerchiefs (her mom’s and her own from when she was younger) that a friend turned into a fabric wall hanging, accented with various edgings and buttons.

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  7. I’m told, by other Baby Boomers, though not by any of the younger generations, that handkerchiefs are to go the way of the dodo. I reject that notion, and so do the kids. Paper tissues are seen as far more wasteful, among Millennials, Gen Z and Alphas.

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    1. Handkerchiefs as a practical item or as an adornment will always be around… I think that embracing the reduction of waste is going to bring a resurgence of the humble handkerchief!

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